Well, you already know about the theft from Monday. In addition to having to cancel the 2 cards and stop payments, I also have to replace my driver's license and SSN card, and I had to put a fraud alert on my SSN with the 3 credit bureaus, plus have to notify the pending payments of automatic withdrawals of the situation so they might be able to hold off on deducting money since it won't clear.
I figured since I spoke with a rep at my bank on Monday and reported the card stolen, the transactions pending would be declined before posting, but today, 2 of them posted, so I had to take my lunch break and go to the local branch to dispute them only to find out no alert or comment was placed on my account, and I can't dispute anything UNTIL it posts to my account.
I'm now in a holding pattern with no access to cash or any funds because my debit and credit card are gone and I'm waiting for them to be replaced, but the "policy" is they have to post to be disputed which means my account is in long-term overdrawn status while automatic overdraft charges get added, which will need to be deducted, but I have to go to the bank each time something posts to dispute it. This means I could have to be there every day if the charges post one at a time each day.
THEN, if that's not bad enough, I go to the DMV tonight to tell them my license was stolen and they are charging me $10 to get a new one; when I explain that I have no access to funds, she tells me they don't give them for free and I'll have to come back. I ask her if there is a paper or something temporary she can give me because until I can get the money, I'm driving without a license. She said not for free, so I leave.
I'm about 2 minutes away from a friend's house, and decide to pop in for a few minutes. Another of her friends was there and they were preparing dinner. I shared the update/story with them and the first words out of that other friend's mouth are, "Can't your mom give you $10? You're only 15 min. from home, you can drive there and get the money then get back to the DMV; they close in 30 minutes."
Yeah, NOT exactly what I feel a "friend" would do and from that moment, I felt like I was intruding and not wanted, so I sort of hung and chatted with my friend for a few more minutes; she extended an invite to me to stay, saying I shouldn't be alone, concerned that I was bottling up everything, but I wasn't about to stay there with the other girl.
Now I'm home and feeling so alone in all of this; getting fed up with feeling this way and wishing something would change. I'm getting tired of doing everything "alone" and feeling like it's just me and God. Sure, I have my family, but it's just not the same and this isn't a slam on you in any way, but us not being together (although I know you're out there) really prevents a lot in this situation.
It's just so frustrating. Typing it out helps a little, but a situation like this really makes me wish I wasn't so "alone". And another part wonders if the situation with other girl was me overreacting. It just feels like she neither one wanted to help. They wanted to farm me off to mom and dad. It felt weird, since I was only 2-3 min. away from the DMV there and had it been me on the receiving end of a friend stopping by like that, I would've done everything I could to get the $10 and say pay me back when you get it. I wouldn't have sent the person 15 min. home and back to get $$ from mommy and daddy. True friends show themselves when they're tested.
It's yet another sign that there's nothing keeping me here in Delaware. Doors are closing on a regular basis. Friendships I thought I had are drying up or ending due to trivial things.
Wherever you are, I pray our life together is just around the corner. Situations like this really make me wish even harder that I had my other half at home with me, just to be there.
