Let Him Chase You Until You Catch Him....

Hmm, that's an interesting concept. Makes it sound like you're doing nothing but running around in circles. Of course, in relationships and the initial "courting" phase, that's pretty much what you *are* doing. *g* But, I had a good chat with Mom tonight about two characters in a book she's reading.

She talked about how this guy was with a girl who was manipulating him and he was going along with it because the sex was great. Then, one night, she manipulates him to the point of purchasing an engagement ring he couldn't afford and turning away her advances of "gratitude" for his gift. He'd been chatting with another girl in the lounge at college on a regular basis, and this girl was just "there" for him. No commitment, no declaration of interest. Just there to talk and listen.

It didn't take the guy long to realize the girl he was with wasn't the girl he wanted. But when he told the second girl this, she surprised him by saying there would be no dating between them for at least 3 months and he had to remain single...not pursue her on the rebound. The first girl was history and the guy did as the second girl said. When they finally started dating, she surprised him again by saying there would be no sex until they were married. He considered it a challenge and agreed.

Finally, the girl realized he was serious about his intentions and stopped playing "hard to get." In effect, she let him chase her until she stopped and caught him. And you know, the more I think about it, the more I realize it's a good plan. So, don't be surprised if we end up following a similar path. As the old adage says: "If it ain't broke, don't fix it." *g*